Author: ABLES INDIA

Acceptance in human psychology is a person’s assent to the reality of a situation, recognizing a process or condition (often a negative or uncomfortable situation) without attempting to change it or protest it.

In any unexpected situation, we go through many thoughts and keep on asking questions such as:

• What do I have right now? 
• What am I experiencing? 
• Why it is happening to me? 
• Why me?

It further gives to series of unwanted thoughts leading to fear and insecurity. It further instills a habit of worrying.

There is a beautiful pictorial presentation on how one should respond to a situation rather than worrying.

Acceptance means, “surrender to the Now.” 

It is a positive response to anything occurring in any moment of life.

To simplify, acceptance means allowing; allowing unwanted private experiences (thoughts, feelings, and urges) to come and go without struggling with them.

One can only practice Acceptance when there is Self-acceptance.

It is being satisfied with one’s current self. It is an agreement with oneself to appreciate, validate, and support the self as it is, despite deficiencies and negative past behavior.

Many have trouble accepting themselves because of guilt, trauma, or a perceived lack of motivation. To accept self means to no longer reject self. 

Self-rejection is bad for health. There are certain negative behaviors associated with it:

• They feel isolated and lonely and excluded;
• They lack healthy eating habits;
• They tend to spend sedentary lifestyle rather than exercise;
• They do not sleep well.

People with self-rejection desire to be accepted among friends as part of that group, and act upon that desire through social pressure. A desire to be accepted by others determines their openness towards unwanted behaviors like smoking, drinking, swearing, and more. They tend to impress others than expressing themselves. It further hampers their self-identity.

The key to a happy and prosperous life is to accept self, accepting what is happening in life with a positive attitude.

• Practice self-acceptance;
• Accept the situation as it is;
• Look for mentor / coach who can help you to analyze, understand, and accept.

आपला देश – भारत, ही महान व्यक्तींची भूमी आहे. त्यापैकी एक म्हणजे आपले दैवत, महान राजा – छत्रपती शिवाजी महाराज.

त्यांना ‘भारतीय नौदलाचा जनक’ म्हणून ओळखले जाते. जगातील अनेक संस्था त्यांना ‘मॅनेजमेंट गुरू’ मानतात. ‘

आपण त्यांच्या आयुष्यातून बर्‍याच गोष्टी शिकू शकतो आणि वैयक्तिक आणि व्यावसायिक जीवनात यशस्वी होण्यासाठी त्या अंमलात आणू शकतात.

मी काही मुद्दे आपल्यासाठी इथे नमूद करत आहे :

१. आदर करा

• स्वतःचा आदर करा;
• पालकांचा आदर करा;
• शिक्षकांचा आदर करा;
• गुरूंचा आदर करा;
• महिलांचा आदर करा:
• आपल्यासाठी काम करणार्‍या आणि आपल्याबरोबर काम करणार्‍या लोकांचा आदर करा;
• सर्वांचा आदर करा.

२. भावनिक बुद्धिमत्ता

• भावनिक बुद्धिमत्ता सकारात्मक मार्गांनी स्वतःच्या भावना समजून घेण्यात, वापरण्यात आणि व्यवस्थापित करण्यास मदत करते;
• प्रभावीपणे संवाद साधण्यास मदत करते;
• वैयक्तिक तसेच व्यावसायिक संबंध टिकवून ठेवण्यास मदत करते;
• कोणत्याही परिस्थितीस प्रभावीपणे हाताळण्यास मदत करते;
• आव्हानांवर मात करण्यास मदत करते.

३. सकारात्मक दृष्टिकोन

• सकारात्मक दृष्टीकोन आपल्याला प्रतिकूल परिस्थितीतही संधी पाहण्यास मदत करते;
• आशावादी होण्यास मदत करते;
• जीवनातील प्रत्येक घटना आणि परिस्थितीतून शिकण्यास मदत करते;
• कधीही ‘हार मानू नका’ अशी वृत्ती विकसित करण्यास मदत करते.
• ‘मी करू शकतो’ दृष्टीकोन विकसित करण्यास मदत करते.

४. आत्मविश्वास

• आत्मविश्वास आयुष्यातील प्रत्येक परिस्थितीचा सामना करण्यास मदत करतो;
• सतत सराव केल्याने त्याचा विकास होऊ शकतो.

५. विश्लेषणात्मक कौशल्य

• स्वतःचे विश्लेषण करण्यात – आपले सामर्थ्य व कमकुवतपणा जाणून घेण्यास मदत करते;
• परिस्थितीला तसेच लोकांना विस्तृत दृष्टिकोनातून समजून घेण्यास मदत करते.

६. शिकण्याची वृत्ती

• शिक्षण आपल्याला आपली कौशल्ये सुधारण्यास मदत करते;
• ज्ञान वाढविण्यास मदत करते;
• नवीन गोष्टी शिकण्यास मदत करते;
• वेळेशी जुळवून ठेवण्यास मदत करते;
• कौशल्य विकसित करण्यास मदत करते.

७. संभाषण कौशल्य

• चांगले संभाषण कौशल्य इतरांना काय म्हणायचे आहे ते ऐकण्यास मदत करते;
• ठामपणे संवाद साधण्यास मदत करते;
• वाटाघाटीची कौशल्ये विकसित करण्यास मदत करते.

८. नियोजन कौशल्य

• आपले लक्ष्य निर्धारित करा:
• त्यांना प्राधान्य द्या;
• ते प्राप्त करण्यासाठी शिकलेल्या धड्यांची अंमलबजावणी करा.

९. समर्पण

• एखादे लक्ष ठरविले की ते लक्ष्य साध्य करण्यासाठी स्वत: ला समर्पित करा;
• सर्व समस्या / आव्हानांवर विजय मिळवा;
• कुठलीही सबब देऊ नका.

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Our country – India is a land of great personalities. Among them is The Great King – Chhatrapati Shivaji Maharaj. He is known as ‘The Father of the Indian Navy.

Many institutes in the world consider him as a ‘Management Guru.’

There are many inspiring lessons one can learn from his life and implement them for success in personal and professional life. I have noted down few lessons to be learned from his life :

1. Respect

• Respect for self;
• Respect for parents;
• Respect for teachers;
• Respect for mentors;
• Respect for women:
• Respect for people working for you and working with you;
• Respect for everyone.

2. Emotional Intelligence

• Emotional intelligence helps to understand, use, and manage emotions in positive ways to relieve stress;
• It helps to communicate effectively; 
• It helps in empathizing with others;
• It helps to maintain personal as well as professional relationships;
• It helps in handling any situation effectively;
• It helps in overcoming challenges.

3. Positive Attitude

• Attitude plays a major role in success; 
• A positive attitude helps in seeing opportunity even in adversity;
• It helps to be optimistic;
• It helps to learn from every event and situation of life;
• It helps to develop a ‘ never give up attitude.
• It helps to develop an’ I can’ attitude.

4. Self-confidence

• Self-confidence helps to face any situation in life;
• Continuous practicing can help in developing it;
• One can develop it by learning new lessons and then implementing them.

5. Analytical abilities

• It helps in analyzing self – knowing strengths and weaknesses (SWOT).
• It helps in understanding the situations and people involved, from a broader perspective.

6. Be a good learner

• It helps to improve skills;
• It helps to enhance knowledge;
• It helps to learn new things;
• It helps to keep up with times;
• It helps in improving skills;
• It helps in developing new skills.

7. Good communication skills

• Good communication skills help to listen to what others have to say;
• It helps in reading between the lines;
• It helps in developing and understanding verbal ( listening, speaking, reading, and writing) as well as non-verbal ( body language, tone, facial expressions, eye contact ) communications;
• It helps in communicating assertively;
• It helps in developing good negotiation skills.

8. Planning

• Setting goals:
• Prioritizing them;
• Implement the lessons learned to achieve those goals.

9. Dedication 

• It helps to be committed to achieving goals;
• t helps to overcome all the problems/issues/challenges;
• It refrains from giving excuses.