Energy is the very strength and vitality we all require to live a dynamic, driven, and determined life.
The happy people have a high energy level, while unhappy have a low energy level. A healthy and happy person indeed is one filled with energy. It helps them to fulfill their dreams, pursue goals, and overcome obstacles.
Have you ever had the experience of feeling bored, threatened, overwhelmed, or depressed after just a few moments in a particular person’s company? Or have you experienced the following symptoms of being:
- Overwhelmed;
- Stressed;
- Physically ill ( headaches, body aches, etc.);
- Mentally or physically exhausted;
- Irritable;
- Anxious.
If that describes a familiar experience, chances are you have been in the company of an emotionally immature individual (EII), who have the sense that the whole world revolves around them.
Some of the characteristics of emotionally immature individuals are:
- They are almost incapable of seeing things from another person’s perspective;
- They often lack empathy;
- They are blamers;
- They are judgemental;
- They are melodramatic;
- They are jealous;
- They are the insecure ones, always in constant need of reassurance and acceptance;
- They feed their ego(loves to dominate, debate, argue, and pick fights);
- They cannot create or sustain their life force in any positive manner;
- Always whining, complaining, and gossiping;
- They perceive others as the solution to their problems;
- They are takers rather than givers;
- They have an exaggerated sense of self-importance and avoidance of life’s real issues.
These people can be your family, relatives, friends, clients, colleagues, neighbors, or even strangers. And they come in all types.
Most of the people who come to me for counseling are some way or others who are in contact with these emotionally immature individuals. Unknowingly, the counselee helped and supported the immature behavior of these people, which affected them adversely, leading to emotional and physical imbalance.
During counseling sessions, we try to identify these emotionally immature people in the life of the counselee and try different customized methods to deal with them.
Some of the methods one can use to deal with such emotionally immature people are:
- Know your well-wishers;
- Practice self-respect and self-reflect;
- Surround yourself with positive, genuine, and caring people who inspire you to be your very best;
- Practice Meditation;
- Employ ‘Let Go’ attitude;
- Limit your interaction with them, if possible;
- Practice assertiveness;
- Encourage EII to develop their strength rather than spoon-feeding them;
- Talk to a Mentor / Counselor for guidance.
Everybody must learn and strive to nurture the energy within themselves. Our thoughts and emotions play a critical role in conserving and enhancing our energy resources.
